No matter what your opinion is on addiction, living with someone that is an addict, takes a serious toll on the people that live with the addict....it shatters complete families, and can result in people bringing that behavior to every relationship you ever have....and to every facet of your life....if you constantly have to be right, or always think everyone elses ways of doing things are incorrect, chances are you may be codependent....if you think that everyone should think the way that you do, thats unhealthy and unrealistic....if you constantly go off on people, and blame other people for the situations in your life, always offering advice, our trying to fix everyone elses character defects, while not admitting to your own, not only are you probably codependent, but you may need medication to balance and enhance your moods and your quality of life... living with an addict causes the sober spouse, child, family member, to cover up things, to make excuses, to lay blame on someone elses head, because the addict blames you for everything....if 30 people say that you have a problem talking to people, or a problem with your temper, or see you accept way less than what you deserve, LISTEN TO THEM, accept the peoples opinion, and Get help.......time to STOP blaming, accusing, and berating people, and allow them to change themselves, because you cant make another person be somebody that theyre not.....Open your eyes to everything thats good in your life, even if you have to write it down, and compare your good and bad lists....chances are the Good will far outweigh the bad, and that alone should give you some peace....I used to be terrified of being single, but now that Ive been single for over two years, I dont know that Ill ever be in a relationship again, And to tell you the truth, I dont care anymore....when you leave a bad relationship, and go straight into another relationship without proper therapy or healing, all the wounds are still there, and you have to watch that you dont treat your new partner, like your ex treated you........its a tricky part of life, a hard thing to experience, and a potential for disaster....not everyone is out to get you....take time to recover, get back to a healthy state of mind, before drawing anyone else into your insanity...go to the doctor, the free clinic, wherever you have to go to see if medication would benefit you, before two more people get swept up in the heartbreaking situation of being in an unhealthy relationship.
Posted on: Mon, 01 Sep 2014 06:01:16 +0000
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