OBJECTIFICATION: Part II- Complicity of Women; Objectification of themselves and other women. An equally complex component in this issue are the more subtle buy-ins by even the most secure among us. Although I was NOT raised under a value system in my family that stressed any importance on getting, keeping or impressing men (actually it was discouraged because I began getting lots of attention at an early age), those messages were all around me, FROM OTHER WOMEN everywhere I looked. Still today, even the slimmest women worry whether they look FAT (gawd forbid) and the most perfect in appearance feel flawed. These insecurities feed bizillon dollar cosmetic, plastic surgery and undergarment (fix/hide your flaws) industries. These are almost non-existent for men. At 50, I am expected to look 20! Guys my age, although many are working out, especially in FL where fewer clothes are worn, look 20 PLUS years OLDER than I do. Theyre NOT sporting silicone, spanx, several-hundred-dollar hair styles, botox, push-up anythings to enhance their equipment or expected to teeter around on unstable footwear for our amusement. We accept their wrinkles, grey hair and less perky asssets, and we assign terms associated with increased,enhanced value, like mature and distinguished. WE do this, ladies. We not only comply, we criticize our sisters, and horrifically, we join in with men in their criticism and objectification...fat shaming, slut shaming, etc. desperately trying to hide our own insecurities. We must begin by loving OURSELVES, every mole, every ounce of fat, everywhere were flat, every freckle and flaw is BEAUTY MARK. We must defend EVERY WOMAN as if she is our precious child, our beautiful sister, our beloved mother. Women with SONS, you must stop giving them a PASS under old BS gender roles and teach them that they are not entitled to act like cavemen in this century or in your home. They need to be taught not just how to GET women, but how to KEEP a relationship alive and loving. It would be nice if their FATHERS would play arole in this...But, herein lies the longstanding deficit. Stop perpetuating the problem by playing the roles, being a pleaser, putting other women down and putting up with objectifying behavior when you see or hear it. Tell at LEAST one woman that she is BEAUTIFUL everyday 😊
Posted on: Fri, 16 Jan 2015 22:02:27 +0000
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