On a very deep level, we all fear rejection. Nobody wishes to be rejected. Either on a job hunt, seeking a favour or asking someone out on a date; we all silently hope not to hear the word NO. It paralyzes one. As a secondary school teenager, I was afflicted with this fear of rejection by the females, that i always refused to take the risk of asking any of them out on a date. As a result, i denied myself the thrill of physical triumph. I denied myself the thrill of being counted among the league of big boys in school. I refused to take risk (To ask) — No ask, no date. No date, no....You get the picture, right? Suppose i had been more confident and assertive, would I have really suffered the fear of rejection? Not likely. Would i have enjoyed the pleasure of sneaking outside the school compound to go see a girl, get kinky with her and get enlisted into the exclusive unofficial club of big boys? Yes! So by taking a chance, i would have gained more and lost less. I would have also gained experience to help me later in the future. Anyways, thats not the point Im trying to make about Rejection. One day, after much contemplations,I finally made up my mind. Today na today! I must get a girlfriend. By evening, I and my friends as usual sneaked out of the School. After loitering on the streets for about an hour, I spotted a very attractive girl. With the best courage i could muster, i asked her out on a date. Sorry, she said. Im a University student, so i dont go for secondary school boys. I also prefer light-skinned, tall guys. I was shocked. Why is she like this? How did shr even know I was still in secondary school? Ummm...But it doesnt matter? I said. I can do what those guys can do? She shook her head and left me there, feeling morose. Till date, i always shrink when Im rejected. It hurts real bad. She had her requirements which i didnt fit and I wasnt even close. But what did i do next? I withdrew. I backed off. She rejected me. So why waste my time and hers still trying to convince her. I felt bad and slightly depressed. Back then, i believed that I am only worthy if people like me, while if people dislike me, then im worthless and needed to work on my flaws. I found myself wishing i was lightskinned, very tall and in the University. I failed to understand people may reject you for different reasons that arent by any means related to your worth. Some might even reject you because of your achievements, your looks or something they dont have. Even if the whole world rejected you, still you are worthy. Dont change yourself to please others else you will lose your self confidence. You must know yourself well or youll end up allowing people to tell you who you are. You must know what you can really do instead of letting people tell you false facts about yourself. This can result in creating false beliefs that will only limit your potential. # GetOverRejectio n # GogreenHelpClea n
Posted on: Mon, 01 Sep 2014 17:05:57 +0000