On being single: I realized that I am no longer upset about being single. In fact, I would venture to say that I love it. And no, Im not some kind of fiercely independent lone wolf; I dont see myself staying single forever and being happy that way. But for now, I realize I am 100% contented with being alone maybe because I used to spend so much time wrapped up in other people that I forgot to spend it on myself. But now that I have all the time, I dont want to give it up. Its amazing how much you can do when you just give yourself the time to do it. I love those warm fuzzy feeling you get from being close to someone as much as the next person, but I also love being able to leave for hours without saying where to and spend hours doing things without being asked if Im done yet. Relationships mean work and commitment, you cant just be with someone and not give them the time of day, but at this point in my life at least I dont feel like I have that time to give. It could be that Im making up for that little time Ive lost. At one point or another, we all define ourselves by who we are with to some degree. We spend so much time looking for that person to complete us that we dont fully get to know ourselves to begin with. We expect someone to magically fill the void and instead of forming a genuine bond, we end up sapping their energy and draining our own. But in being single, I realized that being in a relationship shouldnt be something you need; it should be something you want. It should come from the desire to share an experience rather than the desire to be completed. You have to feel secure in yourself before you bond with someone else or it wont work. So, because I still have a lot of work to do and responsibilities to fulfill ... I will remain cheerfully single until then. - Admin Aric
Posted on: Wed, 13 Aug 2014 09:24:55 +0000
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