Personal Crisis-Part II The V Word The reason that we dont say things like this often enough is that its really tough to be vulnerable at work, especially if youre in a position where youre trying to make a great impression, or compete for a promotion, or prove that your boss made a great choice in hiring you. Its tough to own up to a perceived weakness, admit youre not at your best, or that youre affected by emotions like love or grief or fear or sadness. But the thing to remember is that most of the time, people are wondering about your strange behavior anyway, they notice that something about you is different. Youre likely already not behaving in a way that makes you approachable and amenable at work if youre feeling affected by a personal crisis or big change. So admit to it, that youre human and experience loss and challenge just like every other human on earth. Far better to own your experience like an emotionally intelligent person, than to disconnect or act like a jerk or even slip up with no good explanation. Making a Real Connection There can be unexpected advantages to owning up to whats happening for you when you experience it. When I later told my colleagues at my next job about the end of my relationship, I built amazing friendships with people who opened up to me about their own marriages, families, or personal obstacles. Sharing of real human vulnerability, when done appropriately and in context, can increase your connection to coworkers and improve working relationships.
Posted on: Tue, 16 Sep 2014 17:34:37 +0000