Pity some people feel the need to criticize others. That says they dont really feel good about themselves otherwise they wouldnt put others down. Heres one possible reason why: Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is defined by The Mayo Clinic as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.” If someone is all about themselves, always needing attention and affirmation, he or she may be a narcissist. If someone is easily slighted or over-reactive to criticism, they may also be a narcissist. If they feel they are always right, that they know more, or that they have to be the best, etc., these may also be signs of narcissism. Narcissistic individuals may only appear to care about you when you are fulfilling their needs or serving a purpose for them. A narcissistic relationship often leads to a lot of emotional distress. Below are some common traits that a narcissistic relationship partner is likely to have: (Note the degree to which these traits manifest themselves will vary largely depending on the individual.) Sense of entitlement or superiority Lack of empathy Manipulative or controlling behaviour Strong need for admiration Focus on getting one’s own needs met, often ignoring the needs of others Higher levels of aggression Difficulty taking feedback about their behaviour So, for these people, even slight criticism can be a narcissistic injury, leading to an angry outburst and desperate attempts to regain their fragile, inflated self-esteem. Often, a condescending remark will help them to re-establish their superior image. People may be drawn to a narcissistic partner, especially at the beginning, as they tend to have a “big” personality. They can be the life of the party. They can make you feel that you too must be great for them to be with you. However, in time, they can be too directive and controlling in relationships. They may feel jealous or easily hurt. When narcissistic injuries occur, they often lash out and can be very cutting. Their reactions are dramatic and attention-seeking. According to narcissistic personality expert, Dr. W. Keith Campbell, “The effects of narcissism are most substantial in relation to interpersonal functioning. In general, trait narcissism is associated with behaving in such a way that one is perceived as more likable in initial encounters with strangers— but this likability diminishes with time and increased exposure to the narcissistic individual.” This is why many people, who have had long-term relationships with a narcissist, describe a very passionate and exciting honeymoon period in the beginning and then a sharp decline as the likeability decreases and the self-centred behaviours increase. This link may be helpful too. https://afternarcissisticabuse.wordpress/2013/12/01/signs-that-youve-been-abused-by-a-narcissist/
Posted on: Sun, 30 Nov 2014 01:17:05 +0000
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