Please keep me anonymous. Dear Zane, I recently reconnected with a man I was involved with in college 14 years ago. Back then, you could say he was my perfect love. Morehouse man, played football, and smart. Our romance lasted until he told me his ex was going to have his child. Long story short, we argued, I told him to handle his business and without giving him a chance to explain; I left the state, drop out of college, scared and also pregnant, I went home to my parents. Two months later I received a Dear Jane letter with his romantic apology, and his whereabouts after graduation. It took me a week or two before I finally built up the nerve to call him. When he answered, I told him I loved him and my reason for leaving (pregnant and later miscarried). Instead of, baby come back, I got...If you would have said, I love you, a few hours earlier, I wouldnt have just walked down the aisle. All I could do was tell him goodbye. That moment has haunted me for 14 years with, would of, could of, should of. November of 2012 we found each other on social media. Fire was ignited! We vowed never to leave each other again, blah, blah. Now here comes the down fall. He told me he ended his 12year marriage, and couldnt wait for us to get back together. I started planning our wedding and to relocate. We set a date to meet up last year for Valentines Day weekend, he chicken out, and next thing I know hes now engaged to be married next year TO SOME ONE ELSE! I am really pist! He gets my hopes up. He went as far as telling me he searched for me for 5 long years, and now that he has found me, he is leaving me with a broken heart AGAIN! What in the heck just happened? I am far from unattractive, 39yrs old, spiritually grounded, a successful business woman, and single. I am really hurt. 14 years of love buried and he revived it like it was yesterday, only to leave me in tears. Im venting. Forgive me, but I want him back and I ready to fight for love. What am I to do? My life is on repeat. MY RESPONSE: Who are you going to fight? Him? Listen, he is not interested in marrying you or he would have done it. I am sorry that he ran the same game on you again but you need to let this end now. He is engaged, the other woman has done nothing to you, and he made his choice AGAIN. I feel very sorry for you because you are allowing this man to come in and out of your life at different intervals and break your heart. You gave it a second shot and now he once again has chosen someone else. Let it go, grieve, heal, and move on. Nothing good will come from you throwing yourself at him and asking him to reconsider. Good luck.
Posted on: Sat, 05 Jul 2014 22:21:02 +0000
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