Pssst, pssst, pssst! There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell. ___C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves Love can change a person the way a parent can change a baby — awkwardly, and often with a great deal of mess. ___ Lemony Snicket Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get — only with what you are expecting to give — which is everything. ___ Katharine Hepburn Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness. ___ Bertrand Russell What is hell? I maintain that it is the suffering of being unable to love. ___ Fyodor Dostoyevsky People sometimes say that you must believe in feelings deep inside, otherwise you’d never be confident of things like ‘My wife loves me’. But this is a bad argument. There can be plenty of evidence that somebody loves you. All through the day when you are with somebody who loves you, you see and hear lots of little tidbits of evidence, and they all add up. It isn’t purely inside feeling, like the feeling that priests call revelation. There are outside things to back up the inside feeling: looks in the eye, tender notes in the voice, little favors and kindnesses; this is all real evidence. ___ Richard Dawkins & Dawkins Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused. ___ Paulo Coelho Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up. ___ James Baldwin Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. ___ Louies Louis de Bernieres You can transmute love, ignore it, muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you. I know by experience that the poets are right: love is eternal. ___ E.M. Forster Love is the very difficult understanding that something other than yourself is real. Iris Murdock
Posted on: Mon, 30 Jun 2014 11:52:28 +0000
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