Qualities To Look For In A Partner: Positive Outlook: Part 4 in the series of Qualities to Look for in a Partner is positive outlook. This is another of those non-negotiables that should be included in our list of Must Haves & Deal Breakers before we take a relationship to the next level of commitment. But why is it important to have this quality before embarking on a relationship and why should you seek out someone with this attribute - The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible - I recently made a new friend who lives a challenging life and we have been having some good intellectual & philosophical debates. He asked me: “ …what do you want from the rest of your life? “ My answer: “Becoming all I am meant to be while making a positive impact on the lives of those I meet.” This I can only do with a positive outlook to life. That doesn’t mean I don’t wake up some mornings wanting to stay in bed and wallow in my own misery but then I’ve got into a habit of spending the first 15 minutes of my day reflecting on how blessed I am and before I know it I’m humming a happy tune. Yes, I’m one of those painfully chirpy morning people who don’t need caffeine to get me going. I’m fortunate to facilitate positive change (coach) for a living so this rubs off on me and it’s become a habit for me to have a good attitude to life and a sunny disposition. What makes my new BF and I so different? We both have made a decision to be hopeful about our lives – the good and the bad. We see things as part of a bigger scheme, even if we don’t like it or don’t understand it. Positive people don’t necessarily have the easiest lives; we’ve just decided not to dwell on the negative. Positive people are grateful for what they have; they are open-minded and non-judgemental. Another important aspect of positive people is that they are usually have a degree of confidence and are energised and able to encourage others. This all make them nice to be around and easier to be in a relationship with. They handle conflict better, communicate easier, blame less, forgive more and cooperate with each other. So it makes sense to be positive and choose a partner who is equally able to “see the glass half full.” If you are negative, gloomy, cynical and grumpy then maybe you need to make a decision to change. As with other unfavourable aspects of our personality, we have the power to do things differently…if we want to. And next time? Part 5 of Qualities to Look for … so watch this space. blog.matchvip.co.za/2014/05/16/qualities-to-look-for-in-a-partner-part-4-positive-outlook/
Posted on: Fri, 16 May 2014 13:57:28 +0000
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