Question: WHAT SHOULD I BE LOOKING FOR IN A HUSBAND? Answer: What qualities should a woman look for in a potential husband? Of course, the first should be a man with whom you are of one mind spiritually. The Apostle Paul tells us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). However, we can marry a born-again believer and still not be fully equally yoked. The fact that he is a Christian does not mean he is necessarily a good match for you spiritually. Does he have the same spiritual goals as you? Does he have the same doctrinal beliefs as you? Does he have the same passion for God as you? Too many women marry for emotional or physical attraction alone, and that is a recipe for failure, even if the man is a fellow believer in Christ. The most important relationship that any of us have is our personal relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. That relationship comes before every other relationship. If our vertical relationship with the Lord is on a day-by-day grace basis, then our horizontal relationships will reflect that reality. Therefore, a potential husband should be a man who has his focus upon walking in obedience to Gods Word, and who seeks to live so that his life brings glory to God (1 Corinthians 10:31). What are some other qualities to look for? The Apostle Paul gives us a great source for the qualities we should look for in a husband in 1 Timothy chapter 3. In this passage are the qualifications for an elder / pastor / overseer / deacon in the church body. However, these qualities should grace the lives of any man who walks after Gods heart. The qualities can be paraphrased as follows: This man should be patient and controlled in his demeanor, not filled with pride but of sober mental attitude, able to master his emotions, given to graciousness to others, able to patiently teach, not given to drunkenness or uncontrolled use of any of Gods gifts, not prone to violence, not overly focused upon the details of life but focused upon God, not a man who is apt to be a hot-head or be thin-skinned so that he takes offense easily, and one who is grateful for what God has given, rather than to be envious of what gifts others have received. In other words, what we have here is the description of a man who is actively engaged in the process of becoming a mature believer. That is the type of man a woman should look for as a potential husband. Yes, physical attraction, similar interests, complimentary strengths and weaknesses, desire for children, etc., etc. are things to consider. These things, though, must take a secondary role to the spiritual qualities a woman should look for in a man. A man whom you can trust, respect, and follow in the path of godliness is of far greater value than a man of good looks, fame, power, or money. Finally, when looking for a husband, we must be of the mindset that is surrendered to Gods will in our lives. As we rest in Gods provision for us, He will bring into our lives opportunities and tests. Not all things that seem like opportunities are good, and not all tests are bad. It is the choices to rest in Gods grace in whatever situation that is at issue. Every woman wants to find her prince charming, but the reality is that she will probably marry a man with as many flaws as she has. Then, by Gods grace, they will spend the rest of their lives together learning how to be a partner to, and servant of, one another. We must enter into the second most important relationship of our lives (marriage), not under an emotional cloud, but with eyes open. Our most important relationship, with our Lord and Savior, has to be the focus of our lives.
Posted on: Sat, 25 Jan 2014 12:13:49 +0000
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