Quote of the day for 18 July, " What is not said can be more significant than what is " As a counsellor we are trained to take note of what is not said as well as what is. We have an amazing ability to leave out vital details when it comes to describing our problems. I have worked with people for 5/6 weeks sometimes before they will come out with something you already know is of importance. This can be because of fear, ignorance or they really are in denial of what the real issue is. This is so true when couples argue. What they argue about is usually something totally disconnected from the real issue and that is why the cycle of arguing continues. They keep on arguing without really knowing what it is all about. It may be a concern, a comment that has been taken the wrong way or something that is symbolic of the past. Whatever it is does not matter what matters is that it is brought out into the open. Often our deepest pain we bury in the sub-conscious but it is still there waiting for a trigger. Be alert for things that are not said as well as what is said and the way it is said. Cheers, Gary
Posted on: Thu, 18 Jul 2013 07:44:39 +0000
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