Random thought. When I was growing up, we recognized and accepted our parents choices. It is like somehow, we just knew they were doing the best they could with what they had. I mean, my mom worked, did what she could, and she always made sure we were not farmed out or without food or housing. Back in the 60s and 70s, THAT was huge! Single parents were NOT the norm and she was not getting any help with our support and there was not food stamps, TANF, housing or any of those things to help! While we may not have had the best life, it damned sure was not the worst! AND... AND... when she married my step-dad when I was 10, he STEPPED UP! HE MANNED THE HELL UP! He not only supported HIS kids, he took care of us too! While I have and will always love my Father, he was a good man in his own ways. Yes he had failings, yes, he probably should have done better, BUT, he had another life, other children he did okay by... He had his own story. Bottom line is this: we all have our own story. We do not come with instruction manuals. We do the best we can in most cases. Granted, there are those who dont, wont, cant. I just wish that for every parent who has a child who resents what they feel they were slighted in life would just recognize that parents are human. They make mistakes. If they do not or cannot do that, they will be miserable people and their children will repay them. While I am not dealing with any big situations with my children, I know folks who are and it is sad. I got a call from a friend who is struggling with this. She keeps trying to reach out to her child and she keeps being rejected. Remember folks, if it was not for your parents, you would not have the life you have now! Thanks Estelle Lawson! I know you do not hear that enough!
Posted on: Tue, 12 Nov 2013 23:40:49 +0000