*Redefining ourselves* A friend: “Let’s go to a bar and hang out.” Me: “Yes, sure. Let’s go.” A second friend: “Hey, do you want to go to a mall and have fun?” Me: “Yes, definitely.” A third friend: “Hey, let’s go for a movie.” Me: “Yes, that would be cool too.” And what I really wanted to do was just go home, make a cup of tea, wrap a blanket around myself and enjoy my tea quietly, alone. There was nothing wrong with that, but to my friends that would have been lame. Why would you be alone, if you can have fun, meet people and just hang out, they would think. So I did those things anyway, to please my friends, and to keep them from thinking that I was lame and stupid and also to not feel left out. And I don’t think I will be saying this just for myself when I say that we all have been doing things like this our whole lives. We have been doing what others tell us to. We have been letting others define us. I want us all to take time and think about it. Can we make everyone around us happy? Every person thinks in a different way; everyone is pleased by different things; then how can we please everyone around us? This is possible only by being multiple people at the same time. Isn’t it just better to be yourself? A few months earlier I was in University Drama Club, AMU, taking a workshop when I was asked “Who are you?” It had me thinking: Why do I do things that others want me to do even if that does not make me happy and do not make any sense to me? Why do I do things that do not satisfy me? Why do I keep doing things that are leaving me empty inside? I thought I was smart, confident, and even weird in my own way. Why do I let others guide me? Am I really lame if I want to have some time to myself? Is it so un-cool to think about “ME” for a while? Why can’t I just be myself and take my own path. Why can’t I make my own road and make an example so that others would follow me? Why can’t I make my own mistakes and learn from them? Doesn’t a child learn to walk only after he falls hundreds of times? So let’s make our mistakes. Let’s make some promises and break them. Let’s break some ties and make new ones. Let’s find a new road. Let’s find the child in us. Let’s do something that pleases us, which satisfies us and makes us happy. Let’s redefine ourselves. ~ Nasreen Ahmed #TAWfanarchy
Posted on: Wed, 20 Aug 2014 07:30:00 +0000
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