Regarding my Cover Photo for a Lead Story The original article is online at lifepositive/EmagazinePdf/April2012/Page42.pdf Some relevant text extracted is as under... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ THREE-LEGGED RACE Mumbai-based Ankur and Aarti Gupta, who have been married for 34 years also share the rare blessing of a wonderful and harmonious union. Ankur, a computer whiz who runs his own business, says, “The bottom line is love. Between us we vie for how to give more to the other.” Aarti, an intuitive counselor and therapist adds, “No matter what, I know that he loves me more than anyone else, he will do what I say and he will always be there for me. There are no insecurities at all.” ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ON BENDING GENDER ROLES Says Ankur Gupta, “I have developed my feminine side and Aarti her masculine side, and that has added flexibility to the relationship. At age 18, I could cook a complete meal. I was good at stitching and knitting, because my mother ran a knitting unit and I was forced to chip in. She often used to go out of town and leave me to take care of my dad for 15 days at a stretch.” He adds, “Twelve years back when she opted to become a counsellor, she had to go outstation for her education. It was a major change but we adjusted fairly well. I simplified my needs, made my own tea and introduced sprouts at the breakfast table.” Today, he often cooks breakfast for his working daughter-n-law and revels in the soubriquet of ‘rockstar father-in-law’! Aarti’s masculine energies were channelised into taking charge of their finances, and even in running the administration aspect of their office. Aarti’s career as a healer and counsellor are peaking and Ankur supports her fully, “At this phase in my life, my passion is my work. I feel I am all this because he has allowed me to be this. He has been my teacher,” acknowledges Aarti. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ON COMMUNICATION All the couples interviewed scored high on this front. When conflict enters the picture, Aarti and Ankur fight it out. They may have a cold war for the length of the day but they always sleep together and resolve their issues “The sulking phase is over,” says Ankur ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ON SPIRITUAL INFUSION But it is their capacity to accommodate each other’s spiritual aspirations that gives these couples strength and flexibility in their relationship. “We would attribute the success of our marriage to spirituality. We are not the doers. A higher energy is running our marriage,” says Ankur. Says Aarti, “Things get taken care of without us needing to speak about it. Our communication is through silence.” Even the fact that the two keep evolving has not put a spoke in the marriage. “I am conscious that I am evolving all the time and so is he and that our needs and interests will keep changing too,” says Aarti, “but we have the same values, inclinations. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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