Relationship Crossroads #3 – She Walked Out of the Relationship Have you ever noticed some puzzling scenarios where men are in a fix? Don’t think you’re immune to problems as a man? Certain issues happen to men which they cannot bottle up with their manliness. In such cases, men cries. I mean real tears. One situation that makes a man cry is often caused when a lady he loves so much walked out of his life. It becomes so painful when he’s build his life with her and she quits the relationship without ‘quit notice’. Hmmm…only the strong ones can survive this! Before you’d go crazy or act crazily when such happens to you, I’ll suggest you take some few steps. 1. If you were married, win back her love A woman doesn’t just decide to leave her relationship without giving signs of separation. It doesn’t happen suddenly. It often starts when she no longer have feelings for you. She withdraws into her shell – no communication, intimacy or attention as she normally do. My guy, if you’re too busy pursuing other things, lack of emotional support which she needed from you would spearhead separation before it becomes physical. When you notice any sign of disinterest, it’s better you go back to the drawing board and do all it takes to win back her affection. Do you remember all the chasing game you did at the wooing stage? The calls, even if there’s nothing you have to say; the attention, expression and how you laugh over ‘unfunny’ issues. This time, you need to be patient so that you don’t get fed up. If having tried all of that and it doesn’t work… 2. Pray Oftentimes we neglect the place of prayer in the affairs of our life. You’ll relegate it to the business of those who you term ‘spiritual’. But in reality it works. Pray for her. I know it will sound weird but try it. It works wonders. Prayer helps you to tell God want you want which you can’t get in your ability. If you have a good rapport with Him, with patience and prayer on your part, you’ll win back her heart in love. In exceptional cases, if the two process doesn’t work, then… 3. Move on Yes, move on! I know this could be a painful thing to do but it’s not worth it when you worry over split milk. After doing all you can to get her attention and it fails, move on with your life. You don’t become a man by engaging in a physical fight because a woman left you for another man. You become a man by taking the bull by the horn. Let her be and focus on your life. With time, you’ll get healing to your broken heart. Pick up the pieces she left and build a new life with it. In fact you’ll become better and stronger afterwards. Truth be told, moving on is very difficult but it’s better than worrying over split milk. Life only makes you stronger when it hauls challenges at you and you scale through. You can never have a story to tell if you accept defeat. Single men, don’t commit your heart to love until you’re sure God is leading you. I know how it feels to be head-over-heels in love with her but apply caution. Involve God at the start before it becomes a issue you’ll solicit His help for at the end. It is good to spend on ladies but it’s crazy when you put your whole fortune on her when your fate isn’t decided. I know it’s good to be generous but don’t spend to your hurt. Apply discretion. Unless you’re a philanthropist, don’t sponsor a woman you’re not married to. Are you her father? It’s crazy to do that for ‘love’. I’m not saying you should be stingy but don’t be stupidly generous. The fact that a woman walks out of your life doesn’t mean she took away your heart. Be strong and bold. It’s bitter to experience such situation but it’s sweet when you can pick up the pieces and move on with your life. If winning her love and prayer fails, except in worst case scenario, whether she’s ‘jazzed; build your broken heart and become a better person. Have you found yourself in this situation? Share how you got over it.
Posted on: Tue, 25 Nov 2014 07:44:07 +0000
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