Relationships are hard. I think the majority of the upset I read on facebook comes from relationship issues. Either someone is pining for the love of their life, trying to fix things with a difficult partner, swearing off all relationships or breaking up. Im not immune to this. I happen to believe that one of the biggest things that are meant to teach us life lessons and reveal to us who we are, are relations with one another. No one said it would be easy, but it is well worth it. For those of you pining, make sure you balance the dreaming with getting out there and rewriting belief systems connected to relationships. Example: I cant have a relationship until I have this much money, house or car. Another is, I dont want to be co-dependent. I LOVE positive affirmations. Saying, Im in harmony with life and have time for my significant other, we grow together and I balance my independence with the beautify and security of co-dependence. There are sooooo many techniques to help you refine the type of person you want to be with. Do ALL of them if you want. Just make sure that you honor your intuition to go out and do things to cross paths with this person. Always remember, you can always say no to what you dont want and yes to what you do want. Lastly, I would encourage everyone to have a look at who they are and what they feel they are worthy of. More often then not we attract who we are and who we feel we are worthy of. For those of you trying to fix things with a partner. Bravo! I know it is a lot of work. If the person is worth it to you, keep going. I dont know anyone who has the perfect relationship. But I do know with work, patience and practice you can develop your ideal relationship with your partner. However, make sure you are working towards fixing things for a positive reason and not to hide your dissatisfaction. Communication, boundaries, patience and practice work wonders. Make sure you focus on yourself as one half of the relationship. Dont use your partner as a distraction, also fix the things within yourself that need tweaking. If you need to vent, vent. If you need to sleep, sleep. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to take a break, take one. Give yourself permission to cater towards yourself so that in time you can focus on the relationship fully. Swearing off relationships are fine, actually. Throwing your hands up and walking away can actually be a level of surrender. Just know that any declaration of never being with anyone again, can be revised after youve calmed down. Also, I would encourage people to swear off certain aspects of the person or relationship that they didnt like, then focus on what you DO want. Its a hard addiction to break being mad, angry, annoyed, frustrated and dissatisfied. BUT you are worth it. Go through the process of letting go and receiving. It doesnt have to be executed perfectly, just with an intent to love and honor yourself. For those that are breaking up, there really isnt anything I can say to make it easier. It is a process. You are allowed, so give yourself permission, to sit in your emotions for a time you need. Skipping steps in the healing process can cause the situation to come again just so you can heal. Sometimes all someone needs is to be empathized with, get a nugget of advice, fail so that they no longer judge, etc. Whatever the reason, you dont have to figure it all out NOW. Distract yourself, focus on yourself. There is nothing wrong with you, so dont ask the Universe that question. How can I get what I want, how can I heal, what is the lesson in this? Are better questions. No matter how you go through the process, you are supported by loving energy. I do see positive relationships online. They keep me motivated to do my work. Thank you for all the mirrors and note, you can always email me to vent. Im never far from my laptop.
Posted on: Tue, 07 Oct 2014 20:47:00 +0000
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