SECRETS FOR A SUCCESSFUL CHRISTIAN COURTSHIP. Being in a Christian courtship can be challenging, many Christian singles have found that they started courting with the expectation of marriage but the relationship ended with both parties going their separate ways. Not every Christian relationship or courtship you find yourself in will work out and that can be for several different reasons, but there are principles or secrets or keys (whatever you want to call them) that you can apply that can give you a better chance of building a healthy and successful Christian courtship, one that will hopefully lead to marriage. I pray that as you apply these principles they will bring you your hearts desire for your relationship. If you want a successful and healthy Christian courtship, follow these simple tips: LOVE – Although it takes more than feelings to sustain a relationship, love is still a key ingredient to the success of a Christian courtship. Without true love a relationship will not simply work, love is what motivates you to keep making an effort even when things aren’t going on well You cannot give without love, you cannot show affection without love, you cannot show kindness without love, and all these things are necessary for courtship to flourish and grow. Make sure that part of the foundation of your relationship is love and not just looks and money. When looks fades and the money runs out, you will need true love to keep things going. As the Bible says “you have nothing if you don’t have love” (1cor 13:1-3) FORGIVENESS-regardless of how much you love each other,there are bound to be times when two people who are courting or in a relationship will hurt each other,either intentionally or unintentionally. The key thing is not to hold each other in unforgiveness by holding each other ransom to past mistakes. Your relationship simply will not grow if you keep holding on to how your partner hurt you in the past and keep bringing up their mistake every time there is disagreement. Unforgiveness will give birth to bitterness,assumptions,suspicion and lack of trust, none of which are healthy for a courtship. TRUST- You have probably often heard it said that without trust you have no relationship and that is very true.Every true Christian courtship must have trust as part of its foundation, lack of trust gives birth to suspicion which will lead to you beginning to question about everything your partner does, you start checking their phone and monitoring their every move which will become very frustrating and annoying for them. Even if you have been hurt in past relationships,it doesn’t mean that everybody else you enter a relationship with is going to hurt you. If this particular person you are in your present courtship with has done something to breech the trust in the relationship, once they have repented and asked for forgiveness and there is evidence that they are truly changed then you need to work on yourself so that you learn to trust them again or else you will forever hold onto their mistake and never be able to trust them and without trust the relationship will eventually collapse. UNDERSTANDING - One of the key problems Christian couples that are courting have is in the area of really understanding each other, and to be honest with you, this is something that you will probably be working on for the rest of your lives even after marriage. It is very easy to misunderstand each other because men and women are wired differently and react to things differently. For example you as a lady might make a statement to your man in a non offensive way but the way he receives it makes him feel like you are attacking him or nagging him. This often leads to disagreements and arguments all because of a simple case of misunderstanding. Learn to be patient with each other and not over react or blow your fuse too quickly. Learn to understand the communication style of your partner so as not to misunderstand them. COMMUNICATION - another key ingredient for a successful Christian courtship is effective communication. You have to be able to express yourself and communicate the way you feel and be honest about things with each other. Without communication there will be a lot of assumptions,dont expect your partner to know whats on your mind if you dont tell them. Dont expect them to know whats wrong with you if you havent told them. Communication also includes talking about your vision and plans for the future, sharing jokes and fun moments
Posted on: Fri, 14 Nov 2014 19:27:23 +0000
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