Settling for Second Best We may cling to the irrational belief that things are good enough as they are, we feel a measure of security in the relationship, that change is a difficult and fearful prospect, or that we dont deserve any better, our life has always been a sacrifice of the self, and that this is as good as its likely to get. In the process, however, we give up the chance to be the person we were meant to be and to explore our sense of personal fulfillment in life. We give up not only our own life dreams but our sense of worth in order to maintain the security of a relationship. A healthy relationship is one in which boundaries are not only strong, but flexible enough, to allow us to flourish with our own uniqueness, but are also known to and respected by each other. There is a sense of respect on the part of both partners that allows each to live as full a life as possible and to explore their own personal potential. We dont have to give up ourselves for a relationship but can become interdependent. Healthy boundaries allow trust and security to develop in a relationship because they offer an honest and reliable framework by which we can know each other. But if we dont know where our self ends and the other begins it is impossible.
Posted on: Thu, 24 Apr 2014 19:00:00 +0000
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