Should the title really matter if you have everything else? My answer, YES. When i say title Im not talking about the words boyfriend and girlfriend. Im talking about that confirmation talk, defining the bond that you have by communication and understanding what you have going on. NOT GOING WITH THE FLOW. Those discussions could be private or public. But that what are we talk is important to eliminate confusion. Different things matter to different people. Some people want the relationship title because it broadcasts their relationship publicly, letting everyone,including each other, know that they are official. Other people dont want the title because it makes things public. Which means that all of their hidden bullshit goes public with it. Im personally a fan for the confirmation talk. We are together, or not together. No in between. Youre NOT my woman just because i treat you like it. Youre my woman when I define WHY Im treating you that way, while presenting plans for OUR future, and adding a commitment. When a man really sees you in his future he makes sure it is KNOWN with both actions and words. if you have to wonder, it aint you. Thats why I say actions do not always speak louder than words, because they go HAND and HAND. Treatment and the discussion. The title means nothing if the actions dont match. The actions are bullshit if the definition dont match. A title (Confirmation talk/defined answer to the what are we question) in my opinion, demonstrates a higher level of commitment. It says we arent just going with the flow, we’re in a relationship together and we have plans for OUR future. That talk has nothing to do with other people. It defines where you stand with each other because actions, alone, do not tell you what you are to someone. If you think that just because they treat you like you are the only one, that automatically means youre the only one, thats funny as hell. How many people you know right now are being treated like the only one, but that same person is treating some one else like the only one? you can get cheated on with the title too, well at least youre not getting cheated on in private. 1. This is NOT limited to gender. A lot of women do not want titles. Reasons: Which one is YOURS? A. She recently broke up with someone, but caught feeling for you. She wants you, but knows that she still has feelings for her ex, that still hits her up randomly. Thats why shes in That in between phase with you. She doesnt want you dating anyone else. But she isnt ready to commit to you either. Sometimes, its for your own good. B. She doesnt want to look like shes moving on too fast. So she needs 100 - 200 business days to wait until her affiliation with the last guy dies out. She doesnt want to look like she jumps from guy to guy so fast. But she likes you, thats why shes still messing with you on the low. C. Shes keeping her options open, youre a good guy, but shes not ready to commit and be official. Especially because she has single ass I hate men, side chick-ed type friends, putting bullshit in her head. And youre not making it any better by acting WAY too single. D. Her ex has exclusive rights to her body and heart. And she doesnt want to commit and end up cheating. She already feels bad for messing with you, and if she gives you a title, her ex will think shes REALLY moving on. (In reality, he doesnt care as much as she think he does). He has an active come back trail, so be prepared for her to randomly cut you off and run back to him. E. Because you settled for less and decided to be the side dude. Relationship titles are a validation for the world, they mean nothing if the two people are not committed and emotionally invested in one another... A man who genuinely wants to be with you, not only constantly tries to make you happy and comfortable in his life, but he is eager to let the world know that you are his woman, he’s not keeping it a secret, he is not keeping his options open, and you are the only one. There is no secret or gray area. Actions speak louder than words, but some of those actions are confusing without the words. So if shes yours, show her and tell her.
Posted on: Mon, 26 Jan 2015 02:42:13 +0000
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