So I had a few replies to the previous post and the following is my reply. You ladies have some interesting perspectives, and I thank you for posting them. And can I add another piece to kind of touch on what I mean. In some respects, it could be neither. Think of the half empty half full question. You and your spouse are talking about the same thing, but s/he had a different vision of what you said. So FOR Example, if you recall, I posted that my husband was not comfortable w/me posting our business on fb. Initially however, he said, just promise me you wont become no fb preacher. When he said that, I knew he didnt fully understand what I was doing, so when I read to him exactly what I was going to post, I knew he was going to show some resistance. He was very uncomfortable with that. (to make a long story short) my hubby said, When you said you were going to post some things, I thought you were going to put like little sayings or something. I said, no sweetheart, anymore, I am an open book, but I know you are not. I know others will see our business, and I am okay w/that b/c Ive worked through my issues. My husband was very uncomfortable with that, but he eventually agreed to support me. So, as you see, by asking the other person, when you say fb preacher, what do you mean by that?... b/c this is what I meant... and you communicate about each others perspective, you validate and show that you respect what the other person brings to the conversation. And this works w/a parent-child relationship, co-workers and so forth. Neither or us were wrong we just had not really communicated what we meant in the beginning.
Posted on: Tue, 06 Jan 2015 07:09:40 +0000