So, I just had a crazy roller-coaster experience tonight. I probably will turn it into a blog entry, but tonight, I need to vent a little in order to sort it out. I started talking to a woman on my online dating service. The Young Lady said she was impressed with my writing style, and when we talked on the phone, she appreciated what I had to say. For some reason, she thinks Im cute, and she says Im a beautiful soul. We made a coffee date for next week and, after 45 minutes of phone conversation, we hung up. Five minutes later, Young Lady called back. After thinking about it, she said, she wanted to date someone who had more of a career. I told her (a) that she had the right to reject me for any reason whatsoever, (b) that I didnt blame her for wanting to look for someone else, given the difference between her levels of income and energy, (c) that she was showing me a great deal of respect by telling me right away instead of cancelling on me at the last minute, and (d) that I still had a positive opinion of her, and regretted that I couldnt be more her type. All those things, I said sincerely and honestly. She told me she was willing to talk to me if it wasnt in a romantic context, and we will meet for coffee as friends. YL simply said what many other women have thought over the years and, again, I give her full credit for being able and willing to say it with the perfect mixture of honesty and respect. Oddly enough, this was an issue about which Id been thinking for quite some time. At the risk of sounding down on myself, I have to acknowledge that many women whom Ive wanted to date over the years, but who have ended up dating and marrying other men, have made the right choice. One of the reasons I am trying so hard to build my life is so that I can deserve a womans time and company and be as good for her as the husbands and boyfriends of so many women I know are for them. YL said I was about 20 years behind her, where my professional life was concerned. I could have argued about the number, but in any event, shes in the right, where the main principle is concerned. Most of the women I meet, whom I really would like to date, are similarly busy as movers and shakers on some level; they are where I would like to be. Yes, there are many women Ive wanted to date who have the same kind of professional life that I do, but as a rule, most of the women to whom Ive been the most attached were a lot like YL. I suppose that my main point, here, is that I hope it doesnt take me 20 years to reach the point where I deserve the kind of woman I want. Thank you for listening.
Posted on: Tue, 01 Apr 2014 01:58:52 +0000
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