So I was making coffee this morning with ramblings running through my mind. I thought back to a conversation that I was having just a few years back with someone that I have chosen to no longer have in my life. I remember he said something to me and I felt that he was using unnecessarily big words to convey what I suspected was a simple subject. I wasnt absolutely clear on his intent. I asked him to say it to me in a different way so that I could be clear on what it was he was trying convey. I remember he became angry and spewed out.... What, do I need to dumb it down for you? So to this day...I felt anger well up inside of me at the condescending nature of that exchange. The wounds of words can run deep...and be lasting. It truly is the nature of that sort of relationship (I will decline labeling it what it is) when one wants to gain power over the other... Or attempts to have the other feel less than in order to feel better about themselves. I have a dear friend that has just now come to mind that struggles with just this sort of exchange most every day. It breaks my heart that she endures this daily, as do her children. So today.... Be kind with your words. If you feel the urge to blurt something out in anger or frustration.... Take a deep breath....count to ten....and rethink what you want to say. What did you hear from someone in your past that has stuck with you?
Posted on: Wed, 12 Nov 2014 13:16:32 +0000