So as some of you know I also posted a comment on Freds Glass Houses article and guess what, it wasnt published but has now been deleted. I also sent my comment to Gary Falk, whose comment was: ------------------ Hi Sara Thanks for forwarding me your note to Fred esp. in case he decides to not publish it on his site. Hey, thats great Sara. I certainly hope Fred publishes this and responds to it fully If he doesnt then Im afraid that will say a LOT about his professed desire to be fully open and honest ------------------- ------------------- Here again the comment I posted: ------------------- Dear Fred, The issue of abuse is so widespread and ingrained in our collective, and ultimately both the abusers and the abused are to a very large extent set up by their conditioning and circumstance. Yet it is also greatly veiled, and effectively in your case, people have no litmus test for your integrity other than your own testimony. And although in principle people can change, we all know its not an easy task. With true change of heart, Fred, wouldnt you be looking to give back to society in a selfless way, without expecting reward - at least with a fair part of your actions? One of the problems here is that your proclaimed change of heart is made less credible by your leaning towards self-interest and marketing enlightenment as you do. Regarding working with karma that you mention: There can be a release all round when the dynamic of abuse is clearly recognized by those involved, with all its contributing factors. The release arises through the ability to really step into each others shoes and acutely feel and know how the other experiences the situation - becoming aware of the conditioning that prompts the behavior and actions of each. Then there can be an awakening from the abusive holding pattern, and healing all round can occur. If this has not occurred in the situation between you and your family, then the abusive pattern is not yet set to rest for you. However, if this could not be done with directly with your family, then serving with integrity those who have been in similar abusive situations without expectation of any return is another possible way to diffuse the holding pattern you share with your family and the collective. Imagine this scenario: A man finishes serving a sentence for abuse and has a profound awakening. In his awakening he recognizes himself as being the one in all the roles of the abusive interaction. He no longer identifies with any specific role, yet still harbouring the dynamic in his field, he is prompted by the wish to heal the wounds and enlighten the confusion and fear still bound up in abusive scenarios. So he goes to a rehab or other social centres and explains clearly his situation, volunteering to help out in any way he can. Coming into contact with, and listening deeply to the stories of others who have experienced similar situations of abuse, he is able, with his aware presence, to awaken and heal them, as he would have wished to heal, uplift and liberate those who once suffered under his hand. Taking such a selfless route, Fred, you would naturally demonstrate your transparency in a ‘monitored environment’ – your awakening and selfless intent would be evident and testifiable by all those you collaborate with. This experience could even become a tested milestone out of which your private practice could emerge and upon which it could rest. In this way, your history would indeed be known from the start, together with the beneficial work you may have done for others in the field of abuse. In such an instance, people would be unlikely to have any gripe with you. So while abuse cannot be condoned, there are ways of making amends that are coherent with awakening and its compassionate nature. I humbly suggest you look into this and consider making such voluntary work and selfless service a part of your path – even though it may eat into precious money making time. The question is, who in your eyes is most deserving? Answer that, and you know the truth of your heart. With respect - Sara Avtar
Posted on: Mon, 17 Nov 2014 06:22:36 +0000
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