So, you are someone whos always helping others — by lending a shoulder to cry on, running errands or even offering financial assistance. And you enjoy a sense of purpose after rescuing someone. But when you need help, theres no one to return the favour. You feel used, but that doesnt dampen your urge to help others. If this reads like the story of your life, youre probably suffering from what is called the Saviour Complex. What Is The Savior Complex? The savior complex is a psychological construct which makes a person feel the need to save other people. This person has a strong tendency to seek people who desperately need help and to assist them, often sacrificing their own needs for these people. There are many sides to a savior complex and it has many roots. One of its fundamental roots, in my experience, consists in a limiting belief the savior person has that goes something like this: “If I always help people in need, I will get their love and approval, and have a happy life.” This is of course, a nice sounding fairytale. Houston We Have a Problem Often, in real life, a savior will have such an unassertive way of helping others that instead of becoming grateful, they get used to it and they expect it. They feel entitled to receive help from this person, simply because they need it and they’ve always got it. On top of this, always putting other people’s needs first makes a savior not take care of their own needs. So while they may feel happy because they are helping others, at some level, they feel bitter and frustrated at the same time. Saviour Complex is a deep-rooted psychological conflict, in which you feel an intense need to save others. Such persons will show a tendency to seek people who need help. They often sacrifice their own needs to help others, explains clinical psychologist and author Seema Hingorrany. Well, Im not sure... But this sounds familiar..... Anyway
Posted on: Sun, 29 Jun 2014 00:45:45 +0000
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