Some of my closest friends are those fabulously enlightened ones...who find meaning beyond what we see....who suggest we dig deeper/go farther into personal growth. When we talk with each other, we tend to *not* focus on the challenges/struggles of the other person but what that means to his/her development. I like this. I really do. A moment ago, though, I wrote on a fellow-widows post being a widow SUCKS and felt it to my very core....knew that she needed to hear that I believed that...for her and for me, too. I think over the last three years and realize that any time someone has tried to make this spot of grief a mere challenge that promotes my growth (although it does), it is like fingernails on a chalkboard. It doesnt register. It shuts me down. The ONLY thing that really helps me through...is compassion and empathy. It comes more authentically from others who know grief...but the ones who say I have no idea what youre going through but I hurt for you and Im so sorry....that helps, too. Maybe grief hurts so deep that only compassion really reaches it? Im not wallowing...stuck...or bitter....Im just acknowledging. Grief sucks.
Posted on: Sun, 04 Jan 2015 16:13:34 +0000
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