Some say the fear of abandonment is a universal fear. Its common to most people in most places. It is that anguishing, heartbreaking moment when we believe someone is going to leave us. For many of us, the fear began when some important person did leave or abandon us - physically or emotionally. Now the very thought of it happening again terrifies us. Although the fear may be universal, if we have it, it still belongs to us. It needs to be faced, felt, acknowledged and released - it needs to be healed - or else it may control our lives and harm our relationships. Sometimes we may fear being abandoned so much that we dont want anyone to leave us - even people we dont like - because it triggers that old familiar feeling. If we dont deal with it, however, people can use it against us. All they have to do is threaten to leave and we crumble, acquiesce at the mere thought of feeling that way again. Underneath the fear of abandonment another fear may lurk too, a deeper fear, the fear that somehow weve made the people we love go away. Sometimes in our lives, certain people have had to go away, because that is where their path has led them. But if they feel confused, guilty, or uncertain about the leaving, they may have lied to us. They may have told us we did something wrong, we caused the separation, it was our fault they were leaving. And their lie became embedded in us. Did someone tell that lie to you? Tell yourself something different. Tell yourself the truth. You dont make people go away. You werent the cause. If someone needed to leave you, that was his or her choice. Heal your fear of abandonment. Set yourself and others free.
Posted on: Fri, 12 Sep 2014 00:29:54 +0000
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