Someone recently asked for tips on what to do on dates with her fiancé and someone’s honest reply was “Ask your pastor…..he will tell you.” I must have missed the memo that appointed many pastors as professional matchmakers. They now run lucrative matchmaking services in their places of worship, in addition to the work of pastoring. It is appalling to increasingly find men and women, who delegate the task off spouse-finding to their pastors and some who manage to find for themselves are discouraged or turned away from their choices, all in the name of “My pastor said she/he is not the right one for me.” See, it is an insult to God if you refuse to use the common-sense and intuition He freely gave to you, in addition to the unlimited access to Him. How can a young man say, “Ma, I loved Sister Choice and I wanted to marry her but my pastor said that he’s looked into the future and that she will bring me heartache; that Sister Alternative is better for me as she’s already a member of our church and a committed worker.” Did you ask that pastor which crystal ball he used to divine your future? Did you go back to God and pray, asking him if this was the right choice for you? No. You go and get married to Sister Alternative and tomorrow, begin to add to the prayer-lists of others and the bank accounts of professional marriage counselors and therapists. And you woman that has turned down several marriage proposals because your pastor told you that they aren’t truly heaven-bound until he joins your church….I truly feel sorry for you. You think it is a coincidence that none of those men worship in your church or that for the life of you, you can’t seem to find any man in your church that you like? Stay there and wait for the pastor’s final say, inugo? Many have now made themselves slaves to these modern babalawos or voodoo priests in designer suits, who consult their deities on IPads and BlackBerries. Sad, isnt it? I had a friend whose pastor told her not to marry her fiancé. He told her his brother in the United States was “God’s will” for her. She waited until Mr Americana showed up. On their first meeting, they sat for an hour together and didn’t exchange more than twenty words. They knew it wouldn’t work and decided to part ways. But did Oga Pastor agree? No. He told them that they needed to try harder. Thank God for my friend who used her brain and high-tailed it out of there. Whatever happened to the prayer and personally finding out form God, who it is that’s best for you in His will? With conventions tags like, “MY FATHER, MY FATHER, WHO STOLE MY WEDDING GOWN?” it is easy to see how far many have fallen in the quest to delegate and surrender their rights and authorities as God’s children. I was once invited to a program where the “minister” whom we shall call Prophet (Dr) Preach Somtin, called out phone numbers of spouses. Each “revelation session” went like this: “I’m seeing a number in front of me…..it’s like 08031…..yes, there’s someone here, and your phone number is 08031234567.” (Here, some woman in the crowd let out an excited scream as she sensed she was about to be “visited by the Lord”). The pastor then continued, “Your future husband’s number is 08023456789. Begin to call that number and contact your spouse!” Many called and hooked up with total strangers, whom they didn’t bother to get to know, because the “prophet” had proclaimed them married by calling out their phone numbers! And the person who invited me dared to say, “Eketi, have faith, he will call your number.” Kai! Persin wey for call my number eh, na for State CID how e for explain how e take get am! What am I trying to say? A pastor’s guidance is good, yes. This however does not mean that his word is law and you should abide by ALL he says. This will only lead to you acquiring goat-like qualities and lying outside the church, chewing grass like some church members of a certain Pastor Lesego Daniel did in South Africa some months ago. Or maybe someday (that is if it’s not already happened) people will ask the pastor for when to Reproduce[truncated by WhatsApp]
Posted on: Sun, 01 Jun 2014 07:09:27 +0000
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