Sometimes, marriage is approached with the notion that if only you know how to pray very well and you are spiritual, it would work out. But you will soon find out that a lot of prayer without a selfless life will not achieve anything. Do you need to pray? Yes Do you need to be spiritual? Yes, the Bible advises that. However you need to understand that marriage is made in heaven, but it is lived on earth. If you are human, there will be issues. If you are not aliens, you will hurt each other sometimes. In fact, some of the time, it is your much prayers or much reading of the Bible that hurts the other! Seriously? Yes! So here are few things unspoken things in the heart of ladies they wish men understand about them. Men find it difficult to understand these things because they think differently, and sometimes, even the ladies don’t really understand what they want! They only find out they are unhappy and they don’t know why. 1. The principle of renewal and reiteration Whatever is good should be renewed, reiterated or repeated. Whatever nourishes your body is taken over and over again, not just once and forever. That is why you eat daily. You take your bathe daily. You read your Bible daily. The same way, your fiancée or wife wants to hear “I love you” daily! Can you imagine? Is that it? Yes, that is it! Pastor, but she knows I love her. Yes, she knows, but the verbal commitment expires every hour or so, so you need to keep renewing it! She kind of forget every minute! Women feast on words. The first thing a woman heard after she was created was “toasting” from Adam! The part where Adam verbalized his love is so important that God made sure Adam did that when He presented Eve to him. Otherwise, God could have done that for Adam before presenting her to Adam. God could have lectured Eve, but God knew the man needed to say that. So no matter how you pray when you have issues with your wife, God is not going to go ahead and help you say sorry. You must humble yourself to say that. If as man you cannot say “sorry” to your wife, I tell you what, you are a boy! (Wives, don’t go and say that to your husband o!). As a single, if you live in heaven, and angels are your buddies, and you go into trances and you are so spiritual, you have to verbalize your love to a woman before anything can happen. And you don’t propose with ‘speaking in tongues!” That is why a lady would be hurt if after you pray in the Spirit for two hours, you couldn’t say “I love you” for two seconds till you leave home. You see, that few seconds of verbalizing your love to her and being sensitive to her will make your prayers to be answered faster! Yes you prayed, but you forgot that every lady wants to be “toasted” daily! Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1 Peter 3:7 KJV) You try and ask your fiancée, or wife and see her response. Some singles think they can secure a relationship with Jeru trap; nay, it won’t work that way. That is an affront on God’s injunction and God frowns at that. Let me tell you what can secure a relationship. Constant “toasting” will. You told her you love her before marriage and you convinced her you loved her by telling her severally until she agreed to ‘drop’ her father’s name and take yours! From Miss to Mrs. and then you stop verbalizing the commitment? That can get her depressed! So guys, you are like, I don’t understand my wife, I don’t know what she wants, I’ve done everything! Well, you haven’t done everything until you do this one! When last did you look her in the face, squeeze her hands and tell her with assurance that you love her? She doesn’t want her husband to mutter the word “love” only when you are on Jeru trip! What about when she is in the kitchen? On the phone? Through SMS? Not the “I love you” that you shout back at her after you ran downstairs toward the car and you suddenly remembered. If as single, if he says he doesn’t have your “time” to be saying “I love you” all over again like overgrown boys and girls, well, it is not likely to get better after marriage! My marriage is sixteen years this year and when I tell my wife, “I love you,” her face goes like she is just hearing it for the first time! You need to understand that about women!
Posted on: Tue, 06 Jan 2015 21:15:53 +0000
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