Sometimes the most toxic relationship we ever get into is the one with ourselves. We beat ourselves up, call ourselves names, obsess on our faults, and question our own worthiness of love and happiness. We talk to ourselves the way an abusive partner would, by flooding our minds with doubtful, cynical, hateful, oppressive, and disempowering thoughts. The more often this happens, the more disassociated and discontented we feel about ourselves and our lives in general. On the other hand, our relationship with ourselves can be healthier and friendlier. We can nurture ourselves by taking pride in our efforts and accomplishments. We can acknowledge our strengths and reaffirm that we are worthy of a good life. We can recognize when we do well, when we try our best, when we stand up for what we believe in, and when we authentically connect with and help out our fellow human beings. When we do this, our self-talk focuses on how deserving, capable, trustworthy, and, yes, loving, we are. Which of these relationships we have with ourselves—either the toxic or the healthy one—depends entirely on whether we believe in ourselves. Clearly, if we believe in our own sense of self-worth and adequacy, we’re much likelier to have a happy and healthy life. If, on the other hand, we don’t believe in ourselves, we’re likely to contaminate any opportunity for such a life.So what kind of relationship do you have with yourself? Are you your own worst enemy or your best friend? Do you believe you deserve to fail or to succeed? Are the thoughts playing in your head hurtful or helpful? From Transformation Truths by Brendon Burchard
Posted on: Mon, 28 Jul 2014 13:25:06 +0000
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