Stay Connected IntelliMen Renato Cardoso´s Blog SPIRITUAL INTELLIGENCE FOR YOUR LIFE My husband is difficult… Posted: 626 days ago | In: Relationship What about you, are you easy? In fact, calling your husband or wife “difficult” is the wrong choice of word. Human beings are very complex creatures. Everybody is difficult by somebody’s definition. The right word to use here is “different.” Your husband is very different from you. Your wife may be so different that you may wonder sometimes if she’s an alien from a planet in a galaxy far, far away… But notice the consequences of these two perspectives. If you see your spouse as “difficult”, you will always be frustrated and keep trying to change him or her. (As if people were Play-Doh…) But if you see your other half as “different”, your first attitude will be to seek to understand why he or she is, does, and acts that way. Understand — not judge or criticize. If I understand that, unlike me, my wife likes to go out; if I try to appreciate why that is, and what it represents to her; then I will know how to adapt to that and not let that difference frustrate me. Neither will I attack nor try to change her. Maybe then, she’ll be so grateful for my understanding that she will want to please me too. People only change when they recognize for themselves their need to change. Criticism and pressure usually serve only to strengthen a person’s position. In other words, the plan backfires. Is that what you want?
Posted on: Fri, 31 May 2013 19:49:05 +0000