Straight talking : If you cant move on after failed relationships, its you that is holding yourself a prisoner. Why don’t you check yourself of the things that you do ??? Re-assess yourself and stop complaining!!! Most of us are amazing , smart, beautiful and successful in our individual ways and careers. But when we experience a failed relationship, we shut our doors and loose all trust coupled with fear to try another relationship. This is due to the disappointments of our past and it takes us a bit of time to feel comfortable moving back into a relationship again. During this fragile moment of our lives, when we do get into a relationship and hear that, someone we know whose relationship is thought to be rock solid falls apart, we suddenly keep guard in a negative way of our current relationship. We act like this beco’s the news brings a lot of fear and uncertainty from our past relationships and it will begin to affect the current relationship to start changing too. This fear lead us to transition of quickly going from excited, content, inspired and engaged new relationship... to having all kinds of doubts and questions about the relationship with whom we are having it with. We will become paranoid and unsure about the man/ woman we have the relationship with, and in doing so, we loose the connection and communication we use to enjoy with them. Very soon, and things wont be going on well in the new relationship and it will soon end. These are some of the thing you do unknowingly which holds you back from moving forward after bad experience. The thing is, you have been incredibly strong, moved pass your old failed marriages or relationships, and freed yourselves up to move on to a new relationship, why allow your buttons pushed when you hear someone elses failed relationship ??? This is because, your attention in the relationship was no longer on what you enjoy, and what was working after hearing that news. Instead, because of your fears and past experiences, your attention become focus and shift to thinking about and watching out for problems, issues, and what isn’t working. In short, you forget that, when you behave like these, you create a shift in your new relationship that disconnect from our guys/ women. It’s your own constant fixation on any potential problems that will start to ruin your new relationship - and cause our guys/ women to feel and respond differently and they will change from this open and loving guy/ woman to a moody and on-edge person who didnt seem to listen to anymore. And there you are again, you killed it off yourself !!!
Posted on: Mon, 07 Apr 2014 06:27:26 +0000