TELLING IT LIKE IT IS! OK so today subject: one of my favorite subjects: GRANDPARENTS AND THEIR INVOLVEMENT WITH THEIR NEWBORN GRAND KIDS GRANDPARENTS IN AMERICA Parenting in today’s society has changed significantly from the previous generations of extended households. We used to live in a world where new parents had an abundance of family and friends available as a continuous circle of support. However, today, in this chaotic state of economic turmoil and technological advancement, more individuals must work to maintain their own financial habits and living expenses. Families are not sitting around the dinner table together, sharing the events of their day, laughing about silly jokes, or resolving challenging issues. Instead, cell phones and computers are connecting families with very little physical contact. Grandparents used to live with or near their families. However, today, kids see their grandparents less frequently, never really establishing a strong relationship. In fact, with our current economy, many elderly people are still working to make ends meet, because retirement will not satisfy their fiscal obligations. The lack of connection within today’s family unit is astounding. Consequently, new parents often feel isolated and overwhelmed, while having to navigate through the beginning stages of parenthood, on their own. It takes a village to raise a child. Its easy to forget that in this modern age when young parents often live far away from their parents. But one of the greatest gifts to give to your child is the gift of grandparents. If you are lucky enough to have your parents alive, then use them! Some people may not have good relationships with their parents for a variety of reasons, and I am not suggesting that your children should have a relationship with your parents when you have dealt with abuse or neglect from them. But minor annoyances with older generations is not enough of a reason to keep your parents at bay. Your mother or mother-in-law may make the best baby nurse and what is most important is that you would make many grandmothers and grandfathers the happiest people alive. After all, they raised you! While some recommendations have changed over the years, often times your mother does really know best, She has the experience, perhaps a bit rusty at first, but it all comes right back to you. Allow her to help you and dont resist it. After you give birth, you will be exhausted both emotionally and physically. Allowing her to step in and help will relieve you and provide comfort for your baby. Keep in mind that many parents have a hard time trusting strangers to care for their child. If that is the case for you, then your parents are also a wonderful resource. One further note: the birth of a child for you is the birth of a grandchild for your parents. It is an extension of their family and it is a monumental moment for them, as well. Dont deny them this special time. Think about it: would you want your child to deny you special moments with their child? I doubt it! Some people may not have good relationships with their parents for a variety of reasons, and I am not suggesting that your children should have a relationship with your parents when you have dealt with abuse or neglect from them. But minor annoyances with older generations is not enough of a reason to keep your parents at bay.
Posted on: Sat, 13 Dec 2014 12:08:10 +0000
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