THINK TWICE BEFORE SPYING ON YOUR SPOUSE Constantly checking ur partners phone and sometimes even going as far as accusing them of doing something behind your back hurts your partner and the relationship. Even if you dont share your suspicions but carry them inside, it will still hurt. And as with all hidden negative emotions,it comes out in the worst ways, at the wrong person, and in the wrong place. I wonder what people are doing in the relationship if they have to go down this road, isnt a relationship supposed to make one happy and fulfilled, to feel loved n cared for? Isnt it also about returning that love? Arent relationship about increasing ones sense of security? So when we fall into doubt and install spyware on their phone, trace their every movement, and violate their privacy, what are we actually up to? Its a sign that we have a problem in the relationship. Fine, it is true that partners cheat and that affects the relationship. It is also true that since no one is perfect we will hear or suspect and sometimes even confirm some suspicions. However, in choosing to snoop, we are giving this person power over us. Power to hold us to random in the prison of our self doubts and securities. As it says, no one cant make us feel inferior without our consent. Dont worry we are together It is, therefore, up to us to decide to rise above the meager existence of being a victim of spying n constantly checking up, and giving up our time and energy to the negativity of living in suspicion We need to train ourselves to do things differently. I suspect that we will,sometimes need to laugh and play when things dont go well. Even if it is relationship that is very important to us since it is not end of world. No one can guarantee that a cheating partner means that life is over. Even if you are, sharing him with what seems to be million others. In other words,take reasonable precautions remembering that while relationships involve work, your job is not to get lost in your partner and make him that center of ur world. Doing this is not practical, in the long run it can lead to you being taken for granted. The alternative might be to keep off certain things, his phone, computer and just train urself to trust. Make it habit as hard as it might be. If ur trust issues continue to bother you then it could mean you have deeper issues that require counseling. Alternatively, you can choose to leave, or talk about it with him. In other words, take reasonable precautions remembering that while relationships involve work, your job is not to get lost in your partner and make him that center of your world. Doing this, is not practical in the long run it can lead to you being taken for granted. My dear ladies never show a man that you love him, let him know that you love him, and you cant stay without with, and never forgive a man easily this is where the take advantage of us, all men always know what they are doing either good or bad thing
Posted on: Mon, 17 Nov 2014 05:30:08 +0000
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