TODAYs TOPIC IS TITLED; WAYS TO LET GO OF HIM/HER Somtime ago, i was in a train called HEARTBREAK travelling to an unknown destination called DEPRESSION, though you may be grant a free VISA to visit HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE. ...Only then i knew that Getting over someone you truly loved is not an easy thing & it can’t be done in one day or night, not even in weeks or months. It’s a process that takes some time depending on the love you had for that person, what they did to/for you or what you did to/for them that caused a break up, and your heart. Some people have very delicate hearts & others have big hearts. Those with delicate hearts take months & years to get over their Exs while those with big hearts quickly let go. Now lemme quickly bring from my small brain WAYS & EMPHASIS TO LET GO First is to accept that the relationship is over and it ended for a reason. Yeah, they no longer love you; you are no longer boyfriend & girlfriend (LOVERS). They either used you, you messed up or they got what they wanted and now they dumped you because you no longer mean a thing to them. Whatever it is, forgive them. And if the break up was of your own making, maybe you cheated on them, you took their love for granted… whatever you did, forgive yourself. Forgive yourself messing up, for not being patient, trustworthy, caring, loyal, or understanding. Forgiving yourself will set you free; it will relieve you from anger and the burden of guilty that you are carrying, it will set your heart free from pain & stress and that will be a vital step in your healing process. The second step is forget them. This is also not an easy thing to do. But you can do it through cutting off the communication and contact with them. Being in contact with them only slows down your healing process. Delete all the messages and pictures of them in your phone, computer or tablet. You can also delete/block your ex on social networks (that is if you cant stand seeing them there). The other thing you can do under this is to expel all the memory triggers. In this I mean all the physical things that remind you of them. The necklaces, the watches, shoes, clothes, or any gift they gave you. The third step is keep a distance. Keep a distance from their friends & family members. Don’t contact them, don’t share your pain with them & don’t entertain their conversation that is if they are only telling you about your Ex. Only keep around your best friends & family members. Also don’t venture into places that you used to go in together when you were a happy couple because they will remind you of them and there will be higher chances of meeting them. So keep a distance. The fourth step is love yourself. Know that you are beautiful (handsome), see value in yourself, respect yourself, have confidence in yourself , know that you are lovable, and know that you mean something to someone out there who is also yearning to be loved. Also eat a balanced diet, make exercises to keep your body in shape and to be healthy, make yourself look good in any possible way. The fifth step is to get busy. Make yourself busy with work, studies or your kid(s). Do something productive in that period. You can go for driving lessons, computer training, dancing… you can go for hunting or fishing with your friends, or you can perfect in your skill, intrepreneur or talent. Keep yourself busy will save you from over thinking & stressing. But in case you can’t avoid it, then get out your bible and pray to God to give you courage. Trust me, He’ll listen to you and He’ll make you strong. The most important one is that you should go to God in prayer. There are many more ways of getting over an Ex, these are just but a few. I DONT KNOW IF THESE HELP!
Posted on: Tue, 09 Sep 2014 17:40:46 +0000
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