Talking to others who have lost children, it seems life will always be divided into the before and after of the death. Today we begin the next phase of our lives, the after. I cannot tell you how much I hate this, but after being so energized by the outpouring of love for Chris (and us) these past few days we have realized we have a solid base on which to stand. Our family and friends and Chris friends have been so wonderful, so supportive, and so willing to share their feeling for Chris with us that we know we can not let Chris memory down in the after part of our lives. Well slog through the tortuous minutes. Well cry. Well be sad. But weve already been able to find laughter, and warmth, and solace in the words, and hugs, of others. So many people talked about Chris hugs and how good they were and how happy they made you feel. Ralston Bowles (who posted a song early on in this journey that made me cry very hard) said last night hes no longer going to call them hugs, but Bivs. That was a wonderful thing for a father to hear. To have a child touch so many has been so heartwarming. To think she could change another persons lexicon is quite a tribute. Thank you all. You who have posted, called, written, visited, loved, cried, talked about Chris, stood without words and hugged, or Bived with us. It is you who have show me that Chris will live on in the After part of our lives because she is in your hearts too. Im sure this will not be my last post about Chris. I will never completely heal, but that which I can will come with more words... and probably pictures as I find them.
Posted on: Wed, 03 Dec 2014 14:34:41 +0000
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