The Grieving Process The grieving process for a lack of a better way to describe one of the most painful passages of life! It is exactly that, a process. This process starts at the time-of-death. The grieving process is a never-ending motion of the ups and the downs and a whole-lot of in-between for the person, who is grieving and it will affect every aspect of their lives, including all those around them, it will require allot of understanding, love and support for the grieving person. For most grieving people, the idea of going through stages is something they find hard to except. The reason being is just this; they do not want to be placed, into a category or lumped together with everyone else. Grief is so very personal and although you may share the same type of grief it is still a very personal and private matter for each person who grieves. It is more about their relationship with the person who has died that makes it different. The person grieving does not want to be-placed into a cookie cutter mentality of the stages of grief. They want to feel the process in their own special way. The person grieving wants to know, that it is okay to be wherever, they are in the process. They need to know that they are not crazy for having so called, crazy thoughts about themselves or the person they are grieving. Depending on the type of death and who it is to them, the process is very different, for those who have lost their children, this kind of grieving is one of the most painful processes through grief. This is one of the hardest for the one grieving and for all those around them. Having been through this one myself, I can say I have experienced many deaths in my life including my eight year old sister and my father and none could compare with the death of my eight-year old son Ryan to cancer. His death requires every ounce of my strength on a daily bases, to go on as I process through my grief. There is a line in the book I wrote, that talks about being stuck in grief or as I put it, walking in grief. In my book it gives the reader an alternative, to just walking in grief and that alternative is to allow grief to walk next to them instead. The benefit from allowing grief to walk next to them is this: Grief becomes like a shadow and just like your shadow follows you around so too does grief. As your shadow does, it never hinders your walk because it never gets in the way. It moves with you not behind you or ahead of you but with you. It never stops your forward motion; it is just there to be that subtle reminder that it exists and it will not go away, it will just find its place in your everyday living. Grief and the whole process of grief is a scary subject to most people. Who wants to talk about death and the dying process? Unfortunately, this is not being realistic because death is all around us and even more so in these Times, when no matter where you turn you hear about people dying. Sooner or Later death touches us all and there is going to be no getting around it. Grief is here to stay so why not try to have an understanding for the Process. If not for yourself, why not for someone else, because you never know when you may need to have someone understand your process as you go through grief when it happens to you. bookstore.balboapress/Products/SKU-000651550/Whispers-from-Heaven.aspx
Posted on: Wed, 31 Jul 2013 09:57:34 +0000
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