The Holy Grail Virtue 16 16) Reconcile yourself with your lot. Or as expressed in Hoo pono pono: “I love you.” In this third chamber of the underworld is the beautiful place where we are reconciled with our previously lost parts of soul. It is one thing retrieving lost parts of the soul, but it is another thing to keep them with you. You can only stay together if you are reconciled. That means taking into account all the needs of the others and that includes recognising them, their need to express their qualities and joys and achievements. It is because we denied them in the first place that they left. This battle can be seen as going on continuously in every relationship. It is the battle of trying to be seen. It is that battle of trying to find that one special person who will give us exclusive undivided attention so that we can bask in that recognition and feel that we are in fact special. It is the prize that snares us. And if we see this as a conquest to achieve a prize we will be sorely disappointed. We have to practice gentle kindness towards others so as not to drive them away. We have to accommodate their needs and when they do things that we feel completely overrides our needs we have to forgive them, again and again, because they did not notice, or we reacted out of old history. The practice of daily forgiveness is the practice of “I love you”. If we do not forgive others for what we perceive as their trampling us underfoot, then we start fermenting unrest and become ever more obnoxious. In fact we even start smelling obnoxious. And what is more we keep that rotting state in us to the point that when we suppress it the body starts rotting and we get ulcerative colitis etc. In our obnoxious nature we withdraw from society, become recluse and outcasts, and at the same time we think we are so grand. We are convinced other people do not like us but hide ourselves in the process. We have to reconcile ourselves with our situation and not feel abused, misunderstood, and excluded. We have to simply be here and try to understand others by listening to their stories and tell our stories of experience. Listening to ourselves and how we tell our stories and then listening to how others tell our stories, makes us realize what others heard us say. What parts could they hear? Why did they hear that part. Did we really tell it in a story so they could hear it. Can we listen to their story or are we just waiting for them to stop talking so that we can carry on with our story.
Posted on: Fri, 12 Sep 2014 19:46:08 +0000
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