The Secrets To Lasting Relationships: Johan and Maryna How long have you been together? We have been together for a good 23 years. What do you and your husband do for a living? We have a small company and we both (including our children), work together at the company. We manufacture moulds for the plastic industry – . ” Precision tool and die making for the plastic Injection moulders”. The Plastic Industry is anything from a plastic spoon, knife, fork, food containers, buckets, hangers and many more. Can you still remember your first kiss after all these years? Definitely, I (Maryna) was extremely excited about the first kiss and thought it was never going to happen…but it did and it was a very special night….It is one of the most memorable moments that will stay with me for as long as I live. Your first kiss will always be special. How do you recognise “the one” when you meet them? This is quite easy….. your heart starts to beat fast, your blood pressure hits boiling stage and it feels like you are going to faint (that’s how I felt) ! You can’t take your eyes of the person and there is a heavy desire to get closer before he or she is gone! Let me explain, you will immediately recognise the one when you meet them. Your heart will tell you and give you that warm feeling. When your eyes meet, you just want it to last forever. For me personally, when I met Johan and saw him for the first time, all I could think about was the warm, gentle and loving feeling inside of me. I then knew I wanted this man to be a part of my life and my future. Do you believe it is the man’s job to ‘wear the pants’ in the relationship? How do you define the roles each person takes on within your partnership? We do not think it is either the man or the women’s job to wear the pants in the relationship. They should both be part of it and work as team. We do however think the man should be the leading person in a relationship. The wife should feel safe and protected by him. When one person in a relationship wears the pants, they tend to be a little dominant and demanding and the other one might feel like an outsider and also a little neglected. We suggest both parties take part in in the relationship and be equal in making decisions or taking on arrangements. In our partnership we both play a role. Johan will always be the protector and leader looking after us and our safety. He is the one that gives us a home, a car etc. protection and love. I, on the other hand, make sure the house is the heart of our family….Looking after my family’s needs, playing the doctor and making sure the food is ready after a long day are all key to my role. I see to it that the house is filled with warmth, love and laughter. We both have a role in this partnership; it is all about how you take on your role to make it easier for your partner. Do you have any favourite stories from your marriage or about your husband/wife? There are so many stories to share and they are all special in their own way. My husband is a real comedian. One thing I love about him is his ability to laugh at his own jokes! There’s so many times when he tells a joke, although it is not really a joke, and then he ends up laughing at his own joke. You have no choice but to laugh, not really at the joke but at Johan for just being Johan. I will never forget his face when he held up our son after birth and with tears in his eyes, thanked me for the most beautiful gift I ever gave him. I will never forget the best Valentine ever. Johan picked me up from work and took me home. When I walked into the house there was soft music playing and the house was filled with flowers and rose pedals. He said I can sit at the table as he prepared food for us. I was all exited as he came in with the food…… KFC. The best dinner I ever had!! How does love behave in a relationship? LOVE can behave quite strange at times. One can say that you are being ‘controlled’ by an emotion or feeling for another person. It can be gentle, soft, caring and filled with laughter and good times, but it can also be difficult, bring tears and pain. There are times when you get the ‘silent treatment’. There are times when you feel down but always remember, love will endure everything and without love there cannot be a relationship between two people. Love is the communication in a relationship! Yes, it is great but at times it can become difficult. The word love should be used to communicate your feelings for another but it should also be shown in action. What advice would you give to younger couples? The key words in a relationship are: faithfulness, honesty, respect, forgiveness, love, understanding and communication. In any relationship, no matter how wonderful it is, there will be conflict at one stage or the other. The real answer is not getting your way when things unfold differently than you expect, but asking what it is on the inside that makes you react in a manner that you wish you didn’t or did. Getting married is a dream come true for many people, but remember when you get married, work to keep it as if you are still courting…..never stop courting. Make your partner that special friend, love and respect him/her, laugh and never stop being kids. The spark will never die and love will always be part of your relationship. You and your partner should always be one in everything and TOGETHER you should have a wonderful life. Johan and Maryna found love their way. Are you ready to find your perfect match? Contact MatchVip today and let us help you find what we are all looking for… blog.matchvip.co.za/2014/05/20/secrets-to-lasting-relationships-johan-and-maryna-oosthuisen/
Posted on: Tue, 20 May 2014 15:01:24 +0000
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