The Trendings Blogs Get all Trending Stories Here what if a woman ask you for advice October 8, 2014 what if a woman ask you for advice2014-10-08T07:16:00+00:00 what if a woman ask you for advice Last time I showed you why you should just LISTEN to a woman and give her a shoulder to cry on when she’s upset. But what if a woman actually ASKS you for advice? What should you do then? Personally, the first thing I say when I give a woman advice is always, “What do you want to do?” This is for basic calibration purposes. By asking her this question, I’ll get a sense of what she is REALLY looking for. You see, a lot of times when a woman asks you for advice, she has ALREADY made up her mind on what she would “like” to do. She is really just asking you to CONFIRM a decision she has already made. This is VERY important to remember. (The same principle applies to guys as well.) So by asking her what she would like to do, you’re giving her chance to “spill the beans” and tell you what she thinks she should be doing. You can then offer your viewpoint on her solution. But of course…sometimes a woman will REALLY be clueless and say, “I don’t know.” In that case, I’ll ask, “Well, what do you THINK you should do?” Most of the time, she will spill whatever she has on her mind. (The word “think” actually disconnects the answer from a person. This is why she’ll be more likely to open up to you when you use the word “think”.) If she STILL does not know what she should do, then I’ll finally give her my advice by saying, “If I were you, I would…” This way, I am just telling her what I would do if I were her – without imposing any of my judgement on her life or situation. This is a VERY important key when you’re giving people advice. YOU never want to give people direct advice because a lot of times people will take it the wrong way and start acting defensive.
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