The basis of polyamory is free-will, here are some useful rules to keep around and keep as a kind of “mission-statement” for your explorations within relationships: -I don’t want anything from you, for which the giving doesn’t make you happy. -I don’t want you to try to be anyone but yourself for me. -I want you in my life, but only if my presence in your life enriches it in some way. -When you are with me I am assuming it’s because you want to be there, and because you are receiving something from that interaction. I assume that what I’m offering is unique, and cannot be had anywhere else. So, I won’t try to bind you to me and prevent you from having any experiences that I can’t personally offer. -Your gifts of any part of yourself are just that: gifts. They are not promises & not currency. Giving me something will not make me expect other gifts, nor does it entitle you to anything from me. ...And, likewise, anything I give you is given freely without expectation of anything in return, unless we’ve agreed otherwise. -This is all easier said than done, which is why I want you to challenge me if I ever behave in a way not in accordance with these principles. Poly Weekly
Posted on: Sat, 21 Sep 2013 13:11:44 +0000