The following is a list of things you should NEVER say to a grieving parent. Some of these are things I have been told myself regarding Jace, others are things other grieving parents have experienced. You will also see their responses to such comments below…. Please keep in mind that we are always grateful for your concern regarding our lost children. Just please be mindful of what you say and also remember that the pain will not “ease” and will NEVER “go away” in time. We will never “Get over it” or be able to “move on”…. LIST OF THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO A GRIEVING PARENT. •He is in a better place. ◦Really? Which one of your kids would you like to go to the “better place”? •God needed another flower for his garden. ◦Are you kidding me right now? I grew that “flower” thank you, and I would like to keep it if it is all the same! •At least he is not suffering. ◦He wasn’t suffering before! He was asleep! •You have other children. ◦You’re right! I hadn’t noticed. So, that means I shouldn’t grieve the one that died. Kinda like if you put a hole in your sweater…no biggie, I got another one. •Are you going to try again for another child? ◦I didn’t miscarry. I had a child, I was raising him. He died. He can never be replaced. •You shouldn’t let it consume you. ◦I can and I will for as long as I need to. •He wouldn’t want you to cry. ◦Maybe not. But should I be laughing??? •God only takes the best. ◦That must be true because you are still here! •My (insert any person other than a child and/or animal here) died. I know how you feel. ◦No. No you don’t. No no no no no no! You have ABSOLUTELY ZERO IDEA!!! •Are you feeling better? ◦*blank stare* •Don’t forget, you have another child(ren) to take care of. ◦Well no kidding genious. I am aware of that. I will, however, grieve this child forever. It does not take away my love for my other child. I love him equally. But, then again, you can replace kids. They are like shoes, right? •He is a beautiful angel now. ◦Yeah well, he was beautiful here. That doesn’t help. Nope, picturing him with wings….not making me feel any better. •Don’t remember him with tears. ◦I should remember him with…..????? •I am going thru a divorce, and it feels like a death. So, I understand. ◦It’s a miracle I haven’t slapped you. •Oh your child died? So sorry to hear that, let me explain something to you about my life that is completely irrelevant but I want my dog to be bigger and my story to be sadder! ◦*punch in the face* •You need to let it go. ◦YOU need to go to hell •God is testing you ◦That so? Well, I got a great big F! Because he is not my favorite person right now. •God has a plan for your life ◦No, that isn’t it at all. What this is…is life. People are born and they die. Some way sooner than you would like. With that comes pain, lots and lots of pain…… And my all time LEAST Favorite: (drum roll please) At least you have another child and at least it wasn’t the oldest one that died. *There are no words for how incredibly stupid you are.
Posted on: Sun, 04 Aug 2013 17:09:37 +0000
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