The great Pastors Anita and Chris Oyakilomi are in court pursuing a divorce despite having over a million followers across the world. I still dont understand why people go through the stress of pursuing legal battles in court just to get a divorce. Marriage does not end in the court room but in the heart. Once a marriage is dissolved in the heart it is finished. Marriage is not a game of love but a game of interest. Thats because love generates from emotional convenience, and emotions do not guarantee the longevity of a relationship. I can prove mathematically that we cannot predict the outcome of a marriage even when we make spiritual yet non binding professions that Death will do us Part. Thats because the emotion of love often generate what I refer to as calculated deception. This does not however imply that love does not exist in the hearts of married couples. What needs to be settled is the motivation behind love. Do we marry out of pity? Do we marry the wrong people with the hope that they will change? Do we marry because we met people when they were emotionally battered and felt we could fill a gap in their hearts? Do we marry because we were attracted by a beautiful face covered with cosmetics only to unveil the real face after marriage? Do we marry because someone sang a great song in the church choir? Do we marry for financial security? Do we marry because someone has a slim body which we idolize as beauty? Do we marry because someone puts in their best to make us happy but masking behind a devil? Do we marry because we felt someone was intelligent only to realize after marriage that they are not worth it intellectually? Do we marry because a Pastor told your wife that you have a great destiny and that her role is to help you fulfil that destiny? Do we marry because we had visions of each other that reside in our imaginations? Do we marry because we wanted to cover our patners shame just to prove we love them even if we knew that they might not appreciate our effort? And what if our goodness becomes a source of unhappiness? My friends, do not trust emotions. Do not fall in love with cosmetics. Do not fall in love with a beautiful face. Always fall in love with character. And character must be tested against bad times, against moments of temporary set backs, and against a true vision of the future. And only God can reveal the truism about your significant other. To me, the pursuit of legal battles just to free ourselves from the bondage of marriage is folly. It is folly because the court is an institution with no emotion and the capacity to express these emotions. Thats why sensible people refuse to demonize the other party. The truth of a matter is never complete until we hear from both parties. Some people demonize the other just to claim sainthood before family and friends including a cohort of ignorant sympathizers and spoilers, even when they were the nightmare in the relationship. And this is not limited to Chris and Anita. I salute every man who fails to demonize his partner or claim sainthood regardless of the mounting evidence against her to justify a divorce. And I love men who still humble themselves to say I am Sorry even when spectators often interpret apology as a sign of weakness. May God help us to see the light.
Posted on: Fri, 29 Aug 2014 14:34:22 +0000
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