The hardest thing Ive had to see in my activism and mentoring is how badly someone can be an obstacle to her own degree of change. No external influence, no argument, no link, no amount of hand holding or debating can overcome someone who is in the way of her own self and who refuses to see it or work through it. Im not talking about deciding what is right or wrong for someone. Im talking about people who have put up roadblocks, who have cut themselves short, who are self-sabotaging from layers and cycles of generational abuse or family scrips and roles. It amazes me how I can be a complete stranger across the globe to a random person, and yet because she refuses to turn a blind eye to her inner scars and weaknesses, even my minimal, free information or inspirational messages reach their full potential and open up doors for her. Meanwhile, Ive observed family and friends close to me who have my entire soul at their disposal, who could call me night or day, take advantage of any google search I can pull off or any medical translation they requested...and these people are going in circles, unable to overcome deep hurts, blindly stabbing themselves as they stumble through pregnancy, birth, pp, bfing, parenting, etc. Reliving their own abuses and imparting them upon their children. The more clearly I see how much it is up to the individual to journey on her own path, I also feel a deeper pain. Truly, this is the legacy of the child brought up with shame and detachment. She can never find herself and move on from her childhood. :(
Posted on: Mon, 10 Nov 2014 21:30:01 +0000
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