The most intimate experience we have with ourselves is our feelings. Often we may feel bad or guilty for our feelings and think we need to blame, punish, discipline or change ourselves for feeling certain ways. But what we do about our feelings and how we respond to them determines the quality of relationship we are able to have with ourselves. By creating a safe and loving space within ourselves for how we feel, we create a space for all aspects of who we are, we are able to embrace our whole self in loving ways. For example, when we grieve we should give ourselves permission to feel our grief rather than make a judgement on how we think we should be and depress that feeling. Its not how we are feeling thats the problem, its our judgement about our feelings thats the problem. It is never helpful to use a thought to figure out a feeling. Attempting to figure out in our heads why we are feeling a certain way takes us farther away from ourselves and from our Truth. When we stop telling ourselves that how we are feeling is bad or wrong, we are free to feel and be completely accepting of ourselves. We learn that there is no such thing as good feelings or bad feelings – they are simply feelings. Okay and not okay are only thoughts and when we put thoughts in charge of our feelings we create suffering. Thought for Today: How we treat ourselves when we are feeling down, is more important than getting over it. Responding with compassionate acceptance of our feelings and of ourselves leads us to freedom. It is right mindfulness and attention that allow us to change our behaviour. – Kalu Rinpoch
Posted on: Mon, 18 Aug 2014 01:43:03 +0000
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