The parent in me wants to squash every little insurrection as quickly as possible. But the psychologist in me is glad when my children say No. This is why... The parent in me feels like a failure because Im not being respected. The parent in me gets angry because I feel out of control and Im supposed to be in charge. But the psychologist in me is secretly thrilled he said, No. Because the inability to say No -- the inability to set personal boundaries -- is one of the most common, insidious causes of human suffering. When we cant say No, we become a sponge for the feelings of everyone around us and we eventually become saturated by the needs of everyone else while our own hearts wilt and die. We begin to live our lives according to the forceful should of others, rather than the whispered, passionate want of our own hearts. We let everyone else tell us what story to live and we cease to be the author of our own lives. We lose our voice -- we lose the desire planted in our souls and the very unique way in which we might live out that desire in the world. We get used by the world instead of being useful in the world.
Posted on: Sun, 10 Nov 2013 19:42:28 +0000
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