The past nearly two years has been an incredible journey for me as I reunited with my Twin Flame (who I had not seen in 33+ years), ended a marriage of 23 years (relationship of 28), transitioned my two daughters into new lives, and maintained close ties with my (ex) in-laws who had become my family also. I describe this as incredible because, while there have certainly been difficult and painful moments, ultimately there has been deep love, respect and greater alignment for us all to our true selves. My ex (I also dont like that term) and I parted on amicable terms. It wasnt easy to make the decision but once we faced it honestly, we realized we actually had not been truly happy together for some time though were going through motions and maintaining our commitment together as expected by tradition, society and fear of hurting each other. While this was difficult to see in the moment, in looking back, I now have several insights regarding the journey that transpired. 1) Ultimately my ex and I gave each other permission to move on and this was a gift to each other and ourselves. 2) Our maturity, integrity and care for each other and recognition/honoring to follow our true hearts were important modeling for our children, especially when so many ugly examples of family separations exist in our society. It doesnt have to be ugly. We did not take the decision lightly, but we didnt let it cripple us either. Our daughters know we are both happier, in fact actually experiencing greater JOY and BLISS, and this makes them happier also. 3) Our example was an important model for friends, family and co-workers also. Through the process I became aware of so many people who were struggling through ugly divorces that had turned vindictive and self-serving instead of emanating from the heart center and working in the best interest of all involved. Notice these insights do not involve my TF in any way, but the heart-felt intention and integrity of actions between my ex and I. Interestingly, at the time I had no concept of TFs. I only knew I had to reunite with this man I had known as a teenager. My TF and I both agreed we would proceed with as much kindness, integrity and patience as called for by the situation. Now, nearly two years later, we as a couple are welcome and participate in (ex) family events/celebrations, and caring, authentic relationships are developing between my TF and daughters. My ex has moved on to a new relationship and we see them at these events. In my ever growing awareness of the purpose of TFs, I have to also believe that this journey will somehow provide important templating and help others move gracefully forward from situations of obligation that are also keeping them from realizing their true self.
Posted on: Wed, 23 Jul 2014 21:50:42 +0000
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