The you know that saying goodbye is one of the most avoided and feared human experiences. As a culture, we have no clear-cut rituals for ending relationships or saying goodbye to valued others. So we are often unprepared for the variety of feelings we experience in the process. You will find the following below very helpful to you........ Firstly, you have to allow yourself to feel the sadness, anger, fear, and pain associated with an ending, becos. Denying those feelings or keeping them inside will only prolong them. Secondly you should recognize that guilt, self-blame, and bargaining are our defenses against feeling out of control, feeling unable to stop the other person from leaving us. But there are some endings we cant control because we cant control another persons behavior. And lastly we should give yourself time to heal, and be kind to yourself for the duration: pampered yourself, ask for support from others, and allow new experiences and friends.
Posted on: Mon, 22 Sep 2014 19:38:06 +0000