Theme of Belonging contd.... Dealing with Loss ...( brief overview) The grief cycle as it is known by counsellors, and those involved in support services,as well as survivors and victims of loss.... is experienced similarly and differently by us all..for instance ,when we experience loss we can initially be in Shock,then numbness. This can take some people along time to get through.Then we might experience anger..outrage at what has happened especially when something is so blatantly injust . This can also vary in people interms of how long the anger lasts. When the injustice cant be explained in our minds,we can rally around trying to protect our feelings and manage them the best we can. This can take all sorts of forms and is very complex. One aspect of this for me was my continuous struggle to find my family,to try and define myself in context of having come from them..who could blame me? Even when it was in my face that I was not wanted, I would not accept or believe this for almost 3 decades. For many victims trying to reclaim their worth when their families have shown how little they are worth to them,can seem an endless struggle. However our worth is greater than we imagine...I always say I am no greater or lesser person then the person that I meet next to me each day,or walking down the street,or anywhere that I might be. This is how our worth can be regained, through humbleness and love for others,forgiverness of those who have been unjust to us,otherwise our worth will always be knocked. I understand that we are all at different stages of our grief as victims/survivors of honuor based crimes...but Peace will come if you want this enough. Loss is very complex and counselling and support can be helpful,I spent along time denying the need for this because I thought I could do it on my own ( after all isnt that where my family had placed me? )didnt know where to go for this, when I did find someone it wasnt right for me or I wasnt ready,and when I eventually did pluck up the courage to find the right counselling,I realized that I needed this support for far too long. We have to be ready as much as the services need to be there. Some of us can manage our lives complexities more easily then others, please dont judge someone for where they are at...its the biggest single mistake I see being made for people who have been rejected. Whoever you are, wherever your at...and you might be flying high ,or in denial, or just waiting for another day to deal with whatever comes...remember your worth is no less than anyone elses on this planet!
Posted on: Sat, 02 Nov 2013 08:00:52 +0000
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