This article touches lightly on the vast differences between biological and adoptive parenting approaches and how adoptive parents are often dealing with highly sensitive issues, like attachment disorders, while being given less leave to develop the necessary trust in a forming relationship. Its sad that we are not setting up these relationships to be less traumatizing for the child and recognizing the emotional toll it takes on an adoptive parent. While the physical recovery may not be an issue, it is often the emotional scars that take so much longer to heal. It is so easy to overlook the emotional aspects of adoption or fostering. From the outside, we think how happy a new adoptive family should be since they finally have a child in their arms to love and the child has a loving family. But, we forget that the child has a history that may not have been one where the parents loved the child in a healthy way. Physical displays of affection may not be possible with the child and it may take years to develop the kind of trust necessary for the child to learn to receive and accept love. For the adoptive parents who have also waited and waited for someone to love, it can be devastating to finally have a child in your home who is not able to accept or return the love they both crave. How unfair is it to both of them to rush this precious time and relationship? Choosing to be a parent is the most important decision you can make because that child will grow to become a member of society who can either learn to love and be loved or someone who trusts no one and rides the waves of life alone and isolated, caring nothing for his fellow man.
Posted on: Mon, 01 Dec 2014 15:02:38 +0000
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