This is a long one, be warned. A friend of mine today commented that I was somehow a stronger woman than her because I dont think I would be able to step up and love another womans child with my husband as my own, I feel like I would just see the kid as a product of my husband being with someone else and it would make me jealous or uncomfortable. So first of all, let me start off by saying this isnt just some other womans child were talking about. This is Ruby Anastasia Garcia. Not a single human being has ever met her and walked away thinking she was anything other than the most incredible child. Having said that, I will say this. Maybe its easier for me to accept Ruby as my own because, as those closest to me know, Randy and I have tried for some time now to have a child of our own, but due to health issues Ive had for a long time, it hasnt been very fruitful. obviously. because theres no bebe. For that reason Ive never for a moment been anything but grateful to have Ruby in my life. Shes the child that I want but havent been able to give myself, and shes perfect. But I think, for the sake of individuals who may find themselves in my situation but who dont have my same mindset, it is important to remember this. Of course your husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend/partner was with someone else before you. they were with lots of someone elses before you more than likely. My husband is 37 years old, hes been around a while and lived a full life with lots of relationships and human connections. Its insane to think about that past as having anything to do with you. HOW DARE YOU MAKE A BABY WITH SOMEONE YOU CARED ABOUT BEFORE YOU KNEW I EXISTED! no, life doesnt work that way. When you fall for someone you must accept their past, and a child is not only a part of that past, but an inevitable part of their future. So why would you go into a relationship in that situation with anything but love and acceptance for that child? Thats a piece of the person you love. they created that life, and thats insanely cool. I love randy so much, and I have 1.5 of him in my life instead of just 1, how is that not amazing? I think often people get so caught up on the fact that the other half is someone else they forget that. Dont do that. Find the things about your partner that you love that are reflected in their child and you will never struggle with loving them. Ruby has her dads eyes, his hair, his stubbornness and his beautifully chaotic and creative mind. And to my friends who have kids from past relationships and are having a hard time finding the right person for them, dont ever let someone treat your child like a burden or an inconvenience. Thats a person that you made and that should be celebrated. TL;DR I love my step-daughter, I dont care who gave birth to her. And children are amazing and were lucky they let us hang out with them.
Posted on: Thu, 20 Nov 2014 17:09:12 +0000
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